As we are often reminded by that nudging, that jerking of our hearts just when we’ve erected our walls of rationale, we need our hearts just as much as we need our minds. For when our theories leave us cold and lonely inside ourselves, only the warmth of another will be able to break through the mist and darkness. It is very telling that when we usually utter phrases like, ‘I don’t need her,’ we are doing it with contempt for the truth of exactly the opposite. We do indeed need one another. A man who lives by the theories of his mind is a man who lives alone with a callus heart hardened by the illusion of his self-sufficiency and crumbling under the weight of his autonomy.
Yet, the heart will not only show us a new light by which we may see all things with a different perspective, but it will also give us the warmth and intimacy that we intrinsically crave. And though our love resonates from within us, when we love we are allowed to come outside ourselves into the world where our heart is able to direct its affection toward another. Our selfishness is then defeated by our love allowing us to see the world through others, for whom we choose to make life a bit more radiant. (more…)